Self-Determination Using Your Power

Our lives are defined by the decisions we make each day. When we choose one option over another, whether we are selecting a restaurant or considering a cross-country move, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be empowering, allowing us to enjoy the benefits of self-determination. Yet it can also be a source of anxiety because decisions force us to face the possibility of dissatisfaction and inner conflict. As a result, many of us opt to avoid making decisions by allowing others to make them for us. We consequently turn our power over to spouses, relatives, friends, and colleagues, granting them the stewardship of our lives that is ours by right. Though the decisions we must make are often difficult, we grow more self-sufficient and secure each time we trust ourselves enough to choose.

Ultimately, only you can know how the options before you will impact your daily life and your long-term well-being. Within you lies the power to competently weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each selection. Even if you feel incapable of making a decision, your inner wisdom and your intuitive mind will give you sound counsel if you have faith in yourself. Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others, and even then, treat their suggestions as supplementary information rather than votes to be tallied. Before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. Perceived mistakes can lead you down wonderful and unexpected paths that expose you to life-changing insights. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reigns of your destiny.

When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power. Since you understand that you must live with and take responsibility for your decisions, you will likely exercise great care when coming to conclusions. As you learn to make informed and autonomous choices, you will gain the freedom to consciously direct the flow of your life without interference.

Love and Marriage

A student asks a teacher, “What is love?”

The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.

But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders….may be there is a bigger one later.

Then he saw another bigger one… But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.

Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.

So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.

The teacher told him, “…this is love… You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person….”

“What is marriage then?” the student asked.

The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”

The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, “this time you bring back a corn…. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get…. This is marriage.“*

Know About Aspirin

Aspirin, that old standard in everyone’s medicine chest, can really pack a wallop. So much so that the American Heart Association has long recommended aspirin therapy for people who’ve had a heart attack, stroke caused by blood clot, unstable angina, or “ministrokes.” The AHA also notes that even people who have not experienced such an event but who are at increased risk because of family history, say, may also stand to gain from aspirin therapy.

We’re certainly familiar with our aspirin: About 60 percent of people ages 65 and older pop aspirin at least once a week. But this cheap,over-the-counter pill is not benign, and regular use should be discussed with a doctor. And beware marketing claims. Bayer was sent warning letters by the Food and Drug Administration today for touting two products—Bayer Women’s Low Dose Aspirin + Calcium (Bayer Women’s) and Bayer Aspirin with Heart Advantage (Bayer Heart Advantage)—for making unproved health claims.

Along with its benefits, aspirin has limitations, too. A roundup of recent research suggests taking aspirin regularly may do the following:

1) Cut pre-eclampsia risk during pregnancy. A research review published in The Lancet in 2007 suggests that pregnant women who took aspirin or other antiplatelet drugs were 10 percent less likely to develop the disorder that involves high blood pressure and potentially serious complications for mother and fetus. Aspirin therapy during pregnancy should definitely be discussed with an obstetrician.

2) Reduce risk of developing colorectal cancers. The journal Gastroenterology published a study earlier this year that found a significantly lowered risk of developing the cancers in men with regular, long-term aspirin (and other nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory) use. The benefits, however, were not evident until individuals had amassed a total of five consistent years of regular use. Also, the dose with the biggest benefit—325-mg pills more than 14 times each week—is greater than typically recommended.

3) Lower a woman’s risk of breast cancer. A research review published this month in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute found a 13 percent relative risk reduction in women who used aspirin regularly compared with those who did not. The findings found an overall reduced risk of 12 percent for regular use of NSAIDs in general. Previous research on breast cancer risk and NSAID use has shown conflicting results.

4) Throw off test results for prostate cancer. In an issue of this month’s journal Cancer, researchers reported that men who used aspirin and other NSAIDs regularly had about 10 percent lower levels of the prostate marker prostate-specific antigen. The researchers suggest this may hinder the detection of prostate cancer in regular users.

5) Offer some protection against Alzheimer’s disease. Research has been inconclusive, but a review published this year in the journal Neurology found people who used aspirin had a 13 percent lower risk of developing Alzheimer’s. The study added to an ongoing debate about whether certain types of NSAIDs, say ibuprofen vs. aspirin, were more beneficial.

6) Help prevent strokes—unless you also take ibuprofen. A small study published this year in the Journal of Clinical Pharmacology found that stroke patients taking daily aspirin to prevent another stroke who also took ibuprofen—say, for their arthritis—reaped no antiplatelet benefit. After the patient stopped the ibuprofen, the aspirin became effective. The Food and Drug Administration warns that aspirin’s benefits may be diminished by ibuprofen use.

7) Prevent asthma in middle-aged women. A study published in the journal Thorax this year found that women 45 and older who took 100 mg of aspirin every other day were 10 percent less likely to develop asthma over the next decade than women given a placebo. The study authors note that aspirin could exacerbate symptoms in about 10 percent of people already diagnosed with asthma.

Protect against Parkinson’s disease. A 2007 study published in Neurology suggests that women who used aspirin regularly (defined as two or more a week for at least a month at any point in their life) may be 40 percent less likely to develop the disease.

9) Provide zero protection against heart attacks in people with diabetes. This month, the British Medical Journal published research that suggests diabetics taking aspirin to prevent a first heart attack were no less likely to experience an attack than those taking a placebo. People with diabetes are at least twice as likely to develop heart disease or have a stroke as the general public.

10) Offer no protection to some sufferers of heart attack or stroke. A research review published in the British Medical Journal in January found that nearly 30 percent of people with cardiovascular disease who took prescribed aspirin were resistant to its effects. Such “aspirin resistance,” the study found, makes such patients four times as likely as those for whom aspirin had an effect to have a heart attack, stroke, or die.

11) Cause stomach troubles. People taking aspirin or another NSAID are at higher risk of gastrointestinal bleeding and stomach ulcers particularly with long-term use of the drug.

12) Be less effective in women. This month, a research review published in the journal BMC Medicine found that earlier studies showed a large benefit in men taking aspirin to reduce the rates of fatal heart attack, but women did not reap the same benefit.

Develop your connection between mind and heart

1. Be yourself
If I make a comment to someone – even though it was kindly and sincerely meant – and they get upset or take offense, is their upset my responsibility?
The answer is no.
You can genuinely love someone whilst nevertheless doing something they don’t like or agree with.You do it because you feel it is the right thing to do, though you still understand and have empathy for their different viewpoint (which causes their emotional reaction) which they have created by their own choices and belief system.If one only did things others can easily accept then the status quo would never progress.That would truly be a trap.

The solution here is better communication, leading to increased understanding of each other’s viewpoint, and therefore acceptance of the differing personal realities.There is a strong imprint in our culture to feel sad, guilty, etc. for painful emotions our actions may cause to others.There’s a general misconception that you are your emotions.
“I am angry” and “you make me angry”.This is conditioning not truth.

In terms of cause and effect, it’s a viewpoint at effect.Some say that to be happy, only do what others can easily experience – it’s the same lie. And if it isn’t then you’d better re-think whether you are indeed doing the right thing.
It is one definition of a ‘wrong’ action: that which you would not like another to do to you.You are responsible for your choices, decisions and actions.For being true to your judgment.For communicating with honesty and integrity, developing and maintaining an open mind, and promoting understanding and empathy.For never compromising your freedoms and rights nor trampling on another’s. For always acting from the primary motivation of love.
That’s all and quite enough.Others are responsible, in the same way, for their own beliefs, interpretations, feelings, responses, and reactions; that’s their right and their life – none of our business.

2. Decide what you want
Think of five things that are really important to you: they might include a nice house, loving supportive partner, the chance to travel, a good job, and so on.Now look at your current life and see how it matches up.
These questions can help you pinpoint problem areas:

* What are you doing that you do indeed want to do?
* What are you doing that you don’t want to be doing?
* What are you not doing that you do actually want to do?

In the light of this information, clarify your goals.

Be specific – before you can plan how to achieve a goal it needs to be stated in a way that is realistic, measurable and time-targeted.
Your action plan should be broken down into manageable chunks – the steps you know you can make that, one by one, will take you to where you want to go.
I believe that we do create our reality, the ‘game of life’ on this planet – everything has to be achieved through action, i.e. there is distance between cause and effect.
In practice this means we do best to ‘manifest’ spiritually (perceive our goal as already achieved and be grateful and ‘allowing’ for that) at the same time as we put our goals into directed action, so there is congruence between these two aspects of our being.
Also we need to make sure that our beliefs (at every level of the mind – conscious and subconscious) match up to our goals and our desires.Mind, body and spirit working in harmony.
My work is all about encouraging individuals to discover the truth within themselves – their own inner knowing that is gradually exposed by their own increasing awareness, responsibility and acceptance.
When all distortions and filters are cleared, those subjective realities start to coincide with an objective reality, albeit on a wider dimensional basis than the 3-D world of materiality that scientific rationalism is normally limited to.

3. Don’t worry
The shadow of love is fear.
To understand one’s fears and anxieties better I have found it workable to determine what need corresponds to the fear, as fear and need tend to go together: they’re opposite flows, like the fear of not obtaining one’s needs, whether for survival, comfort, belonging, rightness, esteem, success, realization, and so on.When you’ve identified the corresponding need, it’s easier to see if that need makes sense.Of course, you are worried if your child has got lost and you do all you can to resolve that situation.

But more often worry is a result of not wanting to own up to what you have done, or trying to predict and control other people’s feelings, and especially trying to please another rather than just being content at having done what you feel is the right thing.Unpredicted obstacles may occur so it is important to stay flexible and to think laterally.The future isn’t always predictable; instead of worrying about what the future holds, we need to learn to let go and trust in the Universe to reflect our intentions.
We cannot do better than our best.
We need to be open to new ideas and listen to our intuition to direct us to new solutions.Life is a game – think of it like that and don’t take anything too seriously.
Enjoy the challenges life offers!

4. Take control
Instead of feeling overwhelmed by a task, break it down into small segments that you know you can do and start on the first one.If you have lots of incomplete jobs, list them in order of priority and tackle the most important job first.
This way you have a sense of achievement at each step – and you’ll soon find yourself getting a whole lot more accomplished.Production equals morale.And if you’re living or working in a mess, sort it out – a disordered environment is reflected in your mind.

5. What makes you happy?
Write down a list of things that make you excited, however big, small, likely or unlikely.Then work to make them occur more often in your life.And appreciate the good things you take for granted – your child’s hug or a good book.
Look for moments of joy and savour them.
Recognize how many happen every day.
Feeling good can be a way of life, not just an occasional accident.

6. Smile!
Smiling triggers happy feelings in the brain and reduces stress.Even if you don’t feel happy or confident, just behave as though you do and soon you will.Find the joy in your life and you’ll be more attractive and nicer to be around, people will be nicer to you too – and you’ll smile some more!
Joy is infectious but so is misery; therefore don’t have anything whatever to do with people who dampen your spirits, invalidate your achievements or tell you what to think.

7. Get positive
Write down every negative thought you have over the course of a week, whether it’s “My family don’t appreciate me” or “I look dreadful.” Negativity is a habit and we often don’t realize we’re putting ourselves down.
Under each negative thought you’ve written, see if you can spot an alternative way of looking at it, that isn’t so negative.
See if you’ve exaggerated the situation or overly generalized, or if you are being unnecessarily intolerant or perfectionist, or thinking in terms of pleasing others rather than yourself – the ’shoulds’ and ‘ought-tos’.
The objective world, our playing field of life, is dialectic by the nature of a game, full of beauty and ugliness, good and evil. But the subjective truth of things, the bird’s-eye viewpoint, is ultimately always positive, causative and loving – as that is your essential nature.

8. Assert your rights
Think of things which you have a right to, e.g. “I have a right to an evening out with my friends from time to time.”
Think of rights that every human being should have, such as, “I have the right not to be bullied.”
Now, protect your rights with your life, and watch your integrity and self-esteem grow.

9. Give yourself some time
Be sure to put aside a little time every day for yourself – relax with a book, in the bath or sitting in the garden with the sun on your face.
Think of some things that make you happy – worrying solves nothing.
And at night time, go to bed early enough that you get enough sleep to feel your best the next day.

10. Communicate
If you have a problem, the thing to do is to communicate: find out the information you need to get the full picture, so that the solution becomes apparent.
If you’re upset, you need to communicate and say how you feel.
If you’ve done something wrong, again you need to communicate this.
Spot where you’re backing off from what you need to do or say, and as the saying goes, “feel the fear and do it anyway”.You’ll be glad you did!

11. Nurture your relationships
Communication, understanding and empathy are the component parts of relationship, they’re equally important.
Take time and trouble over your friends and your partner.
Listen and understand their opinions.
Value a different point of view equally as your own.
Don’t make being right more important than a friendship.
People with a few close friends are more likely to be happy than those with many mere acquaintances.

12. Don’t get put in a bag
Don’t allow others to label or stereotype you – and don’t do it to yourself either!
You may have some particular qualities, or have some sort of difficulty, but don’t let that define you.
There’s much more to your life than your race or gender, your sexuality, your psychological or medical problems, your political views, or any other such particulars.
Personal growth is all about finally jumping out of the box that you’re hiding away in – you don’t need any more limiting boxes to be stuck over your head!

13. Be creative
Making something come to life that you have envisioned – whether a painting, a wonderful meal, a dress, an invention, a business plan – is infinitely satisfying.
And you’ll feel pleasure every time you think of it.If you want to be happy, get active – at work, within the family and the community.
You will feel happier when you’re participating in an activity, whether it’s just playing with a child or helping organize a worthwhile event.
Self-esteem comes from demonstrated competence.
Everyone has skills but not everyone uses them.So use your skills – find out what you’re good at and do it.
Joy is often about living in the moment, being absorbed in what you’re doing, not brooding on the past or guessing your future.
Decide what YOU really want and then go for it.It can take courage but it’s worth the risk.

14. Be Mindful
We need to be very much in touch with our heart, with our feelings, but still to remain intelligent about it – to remain in control, not driven by our emotions.
We need a balance of left and right brain – rational mind and emotional mind, logic and feelings, intellect and intuition.
This is where mindfulness and wisdom is found.
We tend to be too cut off from our feelings, in order to suppress painful ones – and this becomes a habit.
Academic education reinforces this imbalance.
And then we lose a lot of our creative and intuitional ability.
At the same time, however, when those emotions ‘escape’ we tend to be driven by them, and think and act impulsively.

Wrong Number – A Beautiful Story

It was the day of my son’s XII results and I was so tensed. I sat beside him while he logged on the website with his registration no.”Ma”, he screamed in excitement, “I scored 1191, with centum in 4 subjects.” I can’t believe it. “I kind of became numb in my excitement. My eyes became wet. I kissed him on his forehead and smiled.”

Soon we realized that he stood first in the state. Oh, my joy knew no bounds when Reporters and media persons soon swamped my house for interviews and photos. I was so honored to join him in the snaps.

I wanted to call my “wrong-number- friend” to tell him the news…… I was so excited. He was someone whom I have known for more than 20 years.

I still do not remember when we became friends, but certainly cannot forget the first day he called me When I blasted him for giving me so many wrong calls….. After that he had called up a week later asking apology, for he had now got the right no of his friend whom he wanted to talk to .We spoke for an hour that day…even without knowing each other’s names. Though he kept pestering me to reveal my name I never did and so he kept a name…Sweety. I used to get so shy whenever he  called me ‘Sweety’. I was doing first year of BSc. Maths then, and he was a Computer Engineering student.

From then he used to call me very often. We almost discussed everything. By the final year of my college, we probably we were in love, but I had been cautious. I was in a dilemma whether to tell him. But what if he was of a different religion? Do I have the courage to talk to my parents about it? ……..all these questions ran through my mind.

I decided I’ll not talk to him thereafter. When he called next time I laid to him I that I was going to Delhifor my post graduation. He gave me his office number and asked me to ring him up once I reach there. I never called…… .

A couple of months later my marriage got fixed with a guy of my parent’s choice. I was not happy but I did not complain; rather accepted it as an obedient daughter. At times I felt I missed my wrong- number- friend…… .

My hubby was a moody person; I have hardly spent any good time with him- but he was genuine indeed and never bothered my personal space. After 2 years we had a boy…Yet, I was not very happy with my married life…One day I happened to browse through my diary and found I still had my old friend’s office phone no that he had given me. I dialed it and spoke with him. He said he was married and got a kid too. I was happy for him though in the bottom of the heart I felt bad that I could not marry him.

From then I used to occasionally call him on that number. I never gave him mine as I felt that would put me in trouble… And till today I almost shared everything with him including my relationship with my hubby…..today I was so happy and I wanted to call him.

Just then I got a call. “Your husband met with an accident and died on the spot” I banged the phone down. I broke. I did not call my friend…..I somehow started feeling guilty. I have never tried to talk to him properly when he was alive or moved close with him…. I felt I had been a bad wife……..

A couple of years passed and one day my son brought home a Bengali girl and said they wanted to get married. I got them married as I did not want my son to go through what I did.

I decided to give my son his father’s room and started clearing it. There was a phone book. I gently opened it to find,

“Wrong no Sweety – 26579785″!!! !!

Sourav Ganguly – Dada,Bengal Tiger….. – My Favourite

Former India captain Sourav Ganguly turned 37 on Wednesday. The most successful Indian captain, Dada, retired form the Test cricket after Australia series in Nagpur. Though Ganguly still plays for Kolkata Knight Riders in the Indian Premier League, has expressed interests in heading the Board of Control for Cricket in India in future.

Sourav already made his debut as a commentator in last month’s ICC World Twenty20 Championships in England. Man of many ambitions Sourav Ganguly likes to achieve his target and on many occasions have had his say….

The Prince of Kolkata made his ODI debut for India in 1992 against West Indies but failed to impress and was immediately dropped. However, after a good run in the domestic cricket, Ganguly was recalled for the Test series against England and made a memorable debut at Lord’s with 131 runs which included 20 fours. Rahul Dravid also made his debut and scored 95 runs.
Sourav smashed another century (136) in the following Test at Trent Bridge and shared a 255-run partnership with Sachin Tendulkar. From there on it was no looking back.

The Bengal Tiger was a regular feature in the One-day team from 1996 onwards but recorded his first century (113) only in 1997 against Sri Lanka at Colombo. Now, Sourav Ganguly was a prolific run-scorer for India in One-dayers and grabbed four consecutive Man of the Match awards against Pakistan in the Sahara Cup.

He was also effective with his right-arm medium bowling and took the career-best 5/16 against Pakistan. The fearless Bengal southpaw liked to attack consistently and developed a special liking for spinners

Unstoppable Sourav Ganguly was bestowed with Indian captaincy in 2000 and took India to great heights. Under Ganguly, India reached the finals of 2003 World Cup but lost to champions Australia. Ganguly-led India had a dream run between 2000-05 and won series in Australia and Pakistan. He was responsible for unearthing in talent like Yuvraj Singh, Mohammad Kaif and Harbhajan Singh among others.

It was during this period that he became the most successful Indian Test captain. However, Sourav’s personal form deteriorated and was subsequently dropped in October 2005

It was during the 2002 NatWest Series that cricket witnessed a football like celebration at Lord’s. After a heroic performance by Yuvraj Singh and Mohammad Kaif in chasing a huge 326 runs, Sourav Ganguly took off his shirt and celebrated the win in the balcony of Lord’s.

Later Ganguly clarified his behaviour saying that he was just mimicking the act performed by Andrew Flintoff during a tour of India.

Controversy and Sourav Ganguly walked all together. Ganguly was only responsible for bringing Greg Chappell as the coach for Indian team and they both made headlines for all wrong reasons. Chappell cited that Dada was unfit to lead the team in his letter to BCCI.

The dispute resulted in the removal of Ganguly as captain and even dropped from the ODI team in 2005. Ganguly said Chappell had asked him to step down and street protests followed in Kolkata; it was even discussed in the parliament

The lord of off-side made his comeback in 2006 during the ICC Champions Trophy in South Africa and performed well for India. Ganguly also reclaimed his place in the One-day team and played some useful knocks before being named in the squad for the 2007 World Cup. Sourav also scored his first double hundred against Pakistan in 2007.

Sourav Ganguly retired from international cricket with 7212 runs in Tests with 16 centuries and 11363 in ODIs with 22 tons. With all kind of records set by Ganguly on the field he is all set for off-field actions. Sourav is all set to contest against Jagmohan Dalmia in CAB elections. Reports also state that Dada may be the East Zone’s candidate for the post of BCCI president in 2014. So, get set for Dada’s another comeback.

Michael Jackson is dead

Pop star Michael Jackson died Thursday following a cardiac arrest at his home in Los Angeles, officials said. He was 50.

The King of Pop, whose life of stardom and scandal kept him permanently in the headlines, was found unconscious at his rented Bel Air mansion and was rushed to the UCLA Medical Centre.

“We were notified by LAPD that Michael Jackson was transferred from his house to the hospital,” said Los Angeles County Coroner Fred Corral. “He was unresponsive and pronounced dead at approximately 2.26 this afternoon.”

Corral said an autopsy would be performed to check for toxicology and other problems. The results are to be released Friday.

A large crowd formed outside the medical centre and his home, playing Jackson’s music, as news crews and reporters jostled for stories and as news helicopters hovered overhead.

Corral said that he had suffered a cardiac arrest and local media reported Jackson had not been breathing when paramedics reached him. Reports from hospital first said he was in a coma, before numerous media reported his death.

“We are just stunned – I can’t tell you what has taken place but everyone is just stunned,” family spokesman Brian Oxman told CNN. Referring to reports that Jackson was in ill health, Oxman said he “feared and warned about” the level of medication that Jackson was taking, though he stressed that “he was in fine condition. We have never seen him in any kind of weakened condition”.

Jackson is survived by three children: Michael Joseph Jackson, Jr., Paris Michael Katherine Jackson and Prince “Blanket” Michael Jackson II.

Jackson had appeared increasingly frail and financially- challenged in recent years. Despite earning hundreds of millions of dollars he was reported to be $500 million in debt thanks largely to his eccentrically extravagant lifestyle.

Jackson’s rented home was roped off after paramedics arrived to transport the King of Pop to the hospital.

Born in 1958 in Gary, Indiana, Jackson was a child star with the Jackson 5 and became one of the most successful recording artists of all time with the release of the album “Thriller” in 1982 – the best selling album of all time. His successful songs redefined the modern music video and forced MTV to start showing black performers, and paved the way for the acceptance of rap and hip-hop as mainstream musical styles.

Elevated to the stardom level of the Beatles and Elvis, he also introduced a new level of mega-stardom through his music and clothes, his dance moves, and his massive live concert tours.

“Michael Jackson made culture accept a person of colour – way before Tiger Woods, way before Oprah Winfrey, way before Barack Obama,” said black leader Al Sharpton. “Michael did with music what they did in sport politics and music. No controversy will erase his impact.”

He raised consciousness about the plight of Africa with the supergroup recording “We Are the World” in 1985. But after that most of his headlines were dogged by scandal – from his marriages to Lisa Presley and former nurse Debby Rowe, to his eccentric lifestyle behind the gates of his fantasy childhood estate, named Neverland, after the setting of the book Peter Pan.

He managed to settle an allegation that he molested a boy there in 1993, but was forced to face a sensational “trial of the century” 10 years later. He was ultimately acquitted of the charges, but the exposure caused huge damage to his career and financial situation.

At the time of his death he had been preparing for a 50-concert run in London that was meant to represent his comeback and secure his financial future.

WORLD’S OLDEST MAN DIES AT 113

Tomoji Tanabe the world’s oldest,died in his sleep at his home in southern Japan 19-Jun-09 .He was 113.Tanabe died of heart failure.Tanabe was born on Sept.18,1895, had eight children.who lived with a son and daughter-in- law, had eight children, 25 grandchildren, 53 great-grandchildren and six great-great- grandchildren.

He was certified by Guiness World Records as the world’s oldest man when he was 111 years old.Tanabe,

Tanabe drank only milk and does not take alcohol and did not smoke.Tanabe was “the symbol of the Miyakonojo known as a city of long life.”

Following Tanabe’s death, British World War 1 veteran Henry Allingham is officially the world’s oldest’s man at 113,Guiness World Records.

Alligham was born in London on June 6,1896 .Allingham is one of the only two surviving World War 1 veterans in Britain and the last surviving founder member of the Royal Air Force.

10 principles for Peace of Mind..

1. Do Not Interfere In Others’ Business Unless Asked.

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourse lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Med itate Regularly:

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:

Do not waste time in protracted wondering ” Should I or shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was desti ned to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?

Classic definition & Cool Meanings in new dictionary

1. Cigarette: A pinch of tobacco rolled in paper with fire at one end & a fool at the other.

2. Love affairs : Something like cricket where one-day internationals are more popular than a five day test.

3. Marriage : It’s an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree and a woman gains her master .

4. Porce : Future tense of marriage .

5. Lecture : An art of transferring information from the notes of the lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through “the minds of either”.

6. Conference : The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.

7. Compromise : The art of piding a cake in such a way that everybody believes he got the biggest piece.

8. Tears : The hydraulic force by which masculine will-power is defeated by feminine water-power. ..

9. Dictionary : A place where porce comes before marriage.

10. Conference Room : A place where everybody talks, nobody listens & everybody disagrees later on.

11. Ecstasy : A feeling when you feel you are going to feel a feeling you have never felt before.

12. Classic: A book which people praise, but do not read.

13. Smile : A curve that can set a lot of things straight.

14. Office : A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.

15. Yawn : The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.

16. Etc .: A sign to make others believe that you know more than you actually do.

17. Committee : Inpiduals who can do nothing inpidually and sit to decide that nothing can be done together.

18. Experience : The name men give to their mistakes.

19. Atom Bomb : An invention to end all inventions.

20. Philosopher : A fool who torments himself during life, to be spoken of when dead.

21. Diplomat : A person who tells you to go to hell in such a way that you actually look forward to the trip.

22. Opportunist : A person who starts taking bath if he accidentally falls into a river.

23. Optimist : A person who while falling from Eiffel Tower says in midway “See I am not injured yet.”

24. Pessimist : - A person who says that O is the last letter in ZERO, Instead of the first letter in word OPPORTUNITY .

25. Miser : A person who lives poor so that he can die rich.

26. Father: A banker provided by nature.

27. Criminal: A guy no different from the rest… except that he got caught.

28. Boss : Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early.

29. Politician : One who shakes your hand before elections and your Confidence after.

30. Doctor : A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you with his bills.

31. Computer Engineer : One who gets paid for reading such blogs…